Stories

Soon the thought-eater strikes, punishing my confidence and questioning my competence. “It doesn’t matter”, it says, while I frantically fill in the final job application quota for the day,“they don’t even look at you”. Alas, this is the part where I begin to wonder ‘Where am I going with this?’. I try not to let my worst cloud my best, but some days easily overpower an optimistic heart. But no matter. I’ve grown fairly resistant towards the irony. I have a set of positive reaffirmations that I chant before I select my language skills on the ATS form.
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I hope that this blog post might help you in time management during the thesis writing process. I was very relieved when I submitted my thesis on time and my calendar was free from daily pomodoro events.
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My burnout was a combination of an unfulfilling situation in life, bad experiences in the workplace, getting fired after company negotiations and having to give up good colleagues. During the Covid-19 pandemic, I had gotten used to not being around them physically, but I think I still need to discuss losing these people with my new psychotherapist.
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Networking is the most essential topic about how to find an internship or a job.
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What is a non-binary? For the first time someone asked me that in real life. Well, it was on the Internet, but I knew them from school. I explained what it means, how I see myself, and how I wish others would treat me.
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I came out of the closet as transgender at the start of my high school studies. I expected to encounter casual transphobia, intrusive questions, and some level of misgendering because of the systems in place in the study environment.
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I recently read a quote that says: “You can have anything, but you can’t have everything”. I wish my dad would have read this quote and would have lived accordingly to that and would have taught me that. I think your identity is what you commit yourself to. And I need to learn, to realize what I want in my life and how to stick to my decisions.
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Don’t be afraid to seek help, talk to a friend or family member, talk to anyone so that you won’t be alone.
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I had harboured an ideal of coping alone, but over the years, my symptoms had only gotten worse, which meant that I hadn’t been able to solve my issues. I saw new hope in the possibility of therapy. I hadn’t tried it before, and it could help me.
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I was diagnosed with a mixed form of personality disorders. So how to fight stigmas in academia?
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I sat in the therapist’s chair and started talking. I talked about my history so naturally that it was frightening; the words just came out. The therapist looked astonished and said, “You have obviously thought about these things a lot.” The therapist wasn’t wrong. My path to the therapist’s chair had been very long, and at the beginning of the journey, I didn’t even know I would end up there.
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According to one idea, the term ‘group’ refers to people who are repeatedly in mutual interaction, and communality is the glue holding this group together. A group also has a shared objective. In my case, the objectives were studies, professional growth and reflection, or the interest in similar societal work. But what if a group does not have any meetings in real life or there are very few meetings?
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Every one of us is helpworthy, no matter what situation we are in. Seeking help is not easy, and there may be many reasons for this. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness. Rather, it takes courage and strength. Nothing in this world is so big or so small that you can’t seek help for processing it.
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I hadn’t been well for a long time; I was only sleeping 8 hours a week and distancing myself from my friends. I wasn’t keeping in touch with anyone and felt as if everyone was in disagreement with me on everything. Finally, I couldn’t even leave my home because I was oppressed by the thought that someone would always think I was doing something wrong.
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For some reason, seeking help is scary, and I almost didn’t do it. The point of this story is that no matter how scared you are, you should respect your own wellbeing and future self. You will thank yourself in the future, and it’ll all be worth it!
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I started thinking about the year 2015 and everything that had to do with that year. One thing has stuck in my mind forever. Especially the spring and summer of 2015, when I realized that everything is not okey with me right now. I did not know what was wrong with me and that further increased my anxiety.
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I’ve gone through a lot. I’ve experienced bullying at school, sexual abuse, having an alcoholic and a gambling addict as parents, and violence in close relationships. The term violence in close relationships is new to many people, and it can refer to many issues beyond physical violence.
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Impostor Syndrome is the meanest out of my new friends. It tries to convince me that I’m not good or qualified enough. It makes me believe that I’m not enough, even with a university-level degree. At its nastiest, it will talk me into deleting a half-written application for a job that interests me.
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I’m like you, but then again, I’m not. We are all different but also alike. We are different in many ways, but we’re at least similar in wanting to be seen for who we are—not based on what we do, how we look, or what medical conditions we have.
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I hope that this blog post might help you in time management during the thesis writing process. I was very relieved when I submitted my thesis on time and my calendar was free from daily pomodoro events.
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